mindy raf

This is how I felt after reading your article entitled: “Armpit Hair On Women Is So Gross And Wrong And Nasty And Not Feminine And Sick And Gross and Putrid and I Hate Women Who Expose Or Don’t Get Rid Of All Their Body Hair I Hate My Own Body Hair I Think It’s Gross Nasty Blech Barf  Women With Body Hair Aren’t Women They’re Nasty Animals Who Don’t Deserve To Have Their Pictures Taken Especially On Red Carpets!” article.

(I’m paraphrasing, of course)

But then I calmed down and thought about it for more than a hot second, and I’m sorry. I’m sorry for giving you the finger via a picture of my comedy alter-ego.

And I don’t mean to single you out because you’re just one of the many women who are hypercritical of other women. I’ve done it too. Maybe we’re dealing with our own insecurities. Or maybe we’re acting out as victims of being socialized to treat fellow women as competition, natural nemeses in our quest to look perfect and “feminine.” (Wait, don’t stop reading I’m not going to start quoting case studies or conjuring up quotes from Women’s Studies lectures in college) I’m just saying it’s true, women are conditioned to hate on each other, and it sucks.

BUT…

if we just took a pause to think, “why do I feel this way? why does this pit hair make me so angry?” we’d realize, hopefully, that it doesn’t!

Amy? Does it? Does it really? Come on! You have to admit, it’s kind of AWESOME!

It’s awesome that there’s a little hair coming out of Pixie’s pit on the red carpet. It’s awesome that maybe some fourteen-year-old girl exposed to magazine after magazine of women’s armpits (the fuzz, stubble, the razor bumps, the side boob crease) being airbrushed clean, is now looking at that picture of Pixie Lott and thinking, “I’m not so bad, there’s nothing wrong with me and my pits!”

I just hope that girl doesn’t come across your article Amy. 

I hate that I’m singling you out, Amy, but your hating on lady hair words made me so sad.

If a lady (or man) wants to have hair in there, grow it, braid it, do it!

If a lady (or man) wants to wax it, laser it, trim it, pluck it, do it, do it, do it! 

We should ALL be able to wear or not wear our body hair in ANY way we want and nobody (esepcaily another women) should berate us, or judge us, or tell us that one way is sexier or more acceptable than the other.

Pixie, I heart your Pixie pits!

 I really do. But if you want to wax them next time, that’s fine with me too.

Amy, same to you. From your picture I’m guessng mabye your pit fuzz is reddish? Sexy! Or not.

Whatever you want to do with them is fine by me.

Love,

-Mindy